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Are you standing at a life-defining crossroads, no longer able to ignore your longing to create—to share your writing with the world & to leave your legacy?
Midlife will do that to you. It will strip away distractions. It’s a time when depth and meaning become far more important than Lululemon and Botox. It’s a time when you begin to reflect on the span of your life, not just on the dreams you’ve realized, but on the ones still buried within, waiting to be brought to the surface.
Most importantly, it’s a time to shed the weight of societal expectations, to let others’ opinions slip away, so that you can gain the clarity and courage to finally answer the call and tap into the creative reservoir within.
The truth is, most of us—through no fault of our own—got swept up in the endless demands and ceaseless distractions of the first half of life. Perhaps we devoted ourselves to raising children, climbing the career ladder, and supporting our loved ones at the expense of ourselves, all while quietly allowing our own dreams and creative aspirations to gather dust. (Hell, maybe we buried them in the backyard under our prize-winning roses.)
Part of the task of the second half of life is to go back & pick up the bits and pieces that we left behind—gifts, talents, capacities, interests, & passions. ~ James Hollis
If one of the “bits & pieces you’ve left behind” is your longing to write, and now your children have embarked on their own adventures, or your once-thriving career has lost its spark, or life’s unexpected challenges have left you reeling, then that latent creativity within you is rumbling. It’s the quiet yet persistent urge to excavate this deeper, hidden part of yourself and bring it up into being.
At the heart of the fears my clients confide in me is the same fear you might be feeling now—the fear of reaching the end of your life and thinking: What a waste? Not because you haven’t achieved truly meaningful things, but because the truest part of yourself—the part meant to be seen, known, and shared—was never fully brought into the light.
If this resonates with you, you’re in the right place.
It’s time to remember who you really are & to reclaim your creativity.
The question is…Do you want to reclaim your creativity by following someone else’s rules or trudging through formulaic guides like How to Write Your Book in 5 Seconds? This path means ticking boxes, meeting external expectations, and likely ignoring your own authentic voice and what it is you really long to convey to the world.
My hunch is that if you’re still with me, you’re looking for another path. One that encourages you to find your authentic voice and create art for art’s sake, no matter what society tells you. One where the process matters to you—the self-discovery, the evolution, the transformation that happens when you mine your inner landscape to create from a deeper place and let your True Self—your Soul—take up the “pen” or put fingers to keyboard.
Sure, every writer I know faces the relentless battle of “applying ass to chair,” pushing through the resistance to simply sit down and do the work. But what most writers do not realize is that the most insidious challenge of all is not just getting the work done, it’s confronting these questions buried so deeply in all of us creators: Who’s going to care about what I have to say? And…Will anyone even understand me?
To make matters worse…
We unknowingly allow the gatekeepers to wield their picks and shovels and suddenly their voices in our heads are deafening. Who are the gatekeepers? Editors, agents, publishing houses, oh my—wonderful, well-meaning, talented people, yes, but during the creation phase, their presence can be downright destructive. This is not the time to let their daunting questions echo in your mind:
- Will this make the NYT bestseller list?
- Do you have a platform of 9 gazillion followers?
- What is your publication history?
- Could it be turned into a Netflix series?
- What is your marketing plan?
If you don’t have the answers, they may as well whisper straight into your soul, “Why even bother?” If you listen to that whisper, you’re already self-defeated and creatively paralyzed, and what you’re trying to quarry will end up six-feet deeper than it was before.
Here’s the truth: What you’re really wrestling with in midlife is the process of reclaiming your creativity by mining your inner gold.
This isn’t the time for gatekeepers, inflated egos, or the persona of a NYT best-selling author—that phase comes later, when it’s time to give your ego a bigger role in getting your work into the world. Right now, in the act of creating, it’s about grabbing your own tools and digging deep enough to uncover something real and raw. This is where you’ll find the most authentic art, the kind of art that transforms you—and by extension, transforms others.
Spoiler Alert: That authentic art that transforms yourself and others??? THAT is precisely what those glorious gatekeepers are looking for, by the way. (But again…this isn’t the time to be thinking of them.)
As a midlife creator, you’re standing on the edge of a rich, untouched vein of inner gold, waiting to be excavated. The tension you face is, on one hand, you’re being called to mine this inner authenticity, to dig down into the layers of your soul untouched by external expectations. On the other, you’re tasked with shaping what you unearth into something the world can hold, admire, and buy—a polished artifact ready for the marketplace.
This clash—between the raw, unrefined gold of your True Self and the polished product demanded by the marketplace—can paralyze your creative process if the weight of public perception seeps into the act of creation itself.
And…you definitely don’t want to allow the audience’s gaze to infiltrate your sacred work during this process of excavation, or the gold will remain buried, unreachable. Your creativity will stall, trapped beneath the pressure of shaping your inner riches into something your mom will like, your friends will gush over, your colleagues will admire, and Penguin Random House will say “hell yes” to, before it’s even fully uncovered.
On top of this, there’s the shame that can creep in, that feeling of raw vulnerability of revealing your deepest treasures—your soul’s unpolished ore—to a world that may overlook or undervalue it, or gasp…critique it. This fear, this sort of trembling at the edge of exposure, can feel like an unbearable risk.
Yet this is the artist’s ancient calling: to brave the depths, to keep mining for truth even when it feels too raw, too close to the bone. It’s the artist’s work to bring forth what is timeless and hidden, and to offer it, transformed, to the light of day, where it may finally be seen and felt.
The beauty is, you don’t have to mine alone. Each of us has an inner companion, a guiding presence shining the brightest headlamp, illuminating paths we’d otherwise miss. This companion speaks to us constantly—through our triggers, our dreams, and even our art itself when we learn how to listen to it.
This inner companion, whether we call it our soul, our psyche, or our muse, is the very source of that elusive flow state, guiding us to unearth that vein of inner gold. It seeks only to help us, to take the lead in this excavation, and when we let it, we align with that force that knows exactly where to dig.
Why dig at all?
Why indeed…many writers have come to me over the years having wanted to hire a ghost writer. Now, many of them want to use AI. That’s a choice that I’m not here to judge. However, I deeply believe for myself, that there is no soul, no transformation (for writer or reader), and no depth in this approach. I’m going to say it. It’s simply not art. The best analogy I can think of is the difference between really, really soulful food vs. Lays potato chips. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love me some Lays, I do. I want to be the first one to open the bag and taste their salty goodness, but Lays don’t nourish me. A homemade pot of Emeril Lagasse’s chicken and sausage gumbo…that feeds me. Stirring that roux until it turns chocolate brown, dicing the celery and onions with my niece, it’s a whole pot of love, work, and speaks to my soul.
On the Process…
What gets in the way of the digging and doing the deep work of creating art? Beyond the obvious…technology, social media, and cleaning the grout in the shower (which is what becomes absolutely critical to me the moment I sit down to write…and I don’t even have grout), is that you haven’t set up an unassailable container. And this is crucial. When you’re sitting, fingers poised over the keyboard, the only two “people” present should be you and your Inner Companion. Mining is messy. You’re not trying to make it pretty, revising every sentence until you’re left with ten words, though you initially wrote five hundred. And…you’re not emailing it to your critique group either. This isn’t the time to hear, “Hey, your memoir is great, but you should add an alien in chapter three.” The other entity that’s not invited into the container is your Inner Critic. I don’t know about yours, but mine is an asshole. The sacred container contains only: You and Your Soul. Period. And it becomes a spiritual practice, regardless of your spiritual or religious beliefs.
Once you’ve established that unbreakable container, you must actively engage in your inner work—Shadow Work, Emotional Alchemy, and Dream Interpretation. Yes, Shadow Work is a buzzword right now, but what does it really do for uncovering your Inner Gold and finding your true voice? Think of it this way: how can you reveal your authentic voice if vast parts of you are hidden below the surface, buried in the unconscious? How can you craft genuine characters, or reflect your True Self in your work, if so much of what drives you is unexplored? And those fears—the ones about failing or even succeeding—where do they hide out? That’s right…deep in your shadow, waiting to be unearthed.
And here’s something that is absolutely critical: Shadow Work isn’t something you can do on your own with a book or worksheet. Your clever ego will only let you scratch the surface. So, whether you work with me or someone else, find someone truly trained to help you go deep—someone who knows the terrain of shadow and can guide you safely through it.
Emotional Alchemy is essential to writing from the True Self. Without excavating our personal experiences and emotions—feeling them rather than bypassing them—we can’t tap into that raw, emotional core. As Robert Frost said, “No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader.” To which I would add, “No catharsis in the writer, no catharsis in the reader.” Because let’s be honest: if your writing lacks emotion and emotional transformation, it’s lifeless. It’s filler. I’ll go further: It’s absolute garbage. No one cares. Imagine if A Christmas Carol ended with Ebenezer Scrooge, having met his three ghosts, caught glimpses of his life’s choices, and having seen the fate of poor Tiny Tim…only to remain the same bitter, curmudgeonly, miserly man. The story would have no impact, no soul, no reason to exist.
If we’re not actively engaging with our own emotions and embracing the highs and lows of a true emotional life, we can’t create writing that resonates deeply either. Carl Jung said: “Without emotion, there can be no transformation.” This is the essence of powerful writing. Whether you’re crafting fiction or personal reflections, it’s the emotional depth and genuine transformation that elevates your work and make it unforgettable.
Dream Interpretation. Wait—what? For many, it’s surprising to learn that one of the richest veins of creative insight comes from our dreams. Our Inner Companion speaks to us through dreams, offering a hidden map to our inner landscapes. By digging into these nightly messages, we tap into a deep well of symbolism, hidden truths, and inspiration that lie just beneath the surface.
Dreams speak in symbols and metaphors, brimming with meaning and layers. By interpreting these symbols, you gain access to a unique, symbolic language that can add depth and resonance to your storytelling. It’s a powerful tool to uncover themes and ideas that may be lying dormant, waiting to be explored more fully in your work. And perhaps most importantly, dream work connects you to timeless archetypes and universal story patterns that captivate readers on a deep, subconscious level.
Mining the rich terrain of your dreams can unearth precious material, giving your writing the weight and depth that only comes from tapping into the hidden reserves of the unconscious.
Ink & Insight: Excavate Your Inner Gold, Unearth Your Creative Passion & Craft a Fulfilling Second Half of Life
If you haven’t gathered by now, Ink & Insight is not your typical writing program, and it certainly doesn’t follow the formula for churning out a book in 5 seconds, managed by keyword-driven aspirations for Amazon bestseller status in obscure categories like: Alpaca / Yarn / Red.
Rather, it’s a deeply transformational experience meticulously designed for individuals in the midlife season who are ready to rekindle their neglected passions, resurrect dormant talents, and unveil the True Selves that have been shrouded in the midst of life’s chaos. It’s a
If you’re wondering whether I myself have stood on the edge of that rich, untouched vein of inner gold and felt the unbearable risk of raw vulnerability and exposure, the answer is a resounding “yes.”
The first half of my life was a relentless cycle of creating for others, of tirelessly building their dreams and helping them soar. To be clear, those years were profoundly rewarding, filled with accomplishments and joy, and a deep love for my clients. Yet this dedication and ceaseless effort came at a cost—the surrendering of my own creative genius and my own deep longing to write.
After what I can only describe as my “dark-year-and-a-half-to-two-years of the soul” (let’s not get it twisted, it’s far longer than a mere “dark night of the soul”)—a period marred by the profound losses of loved ones, grueling health struggles, and an MFA program that nearly crushed my identity as a writer, I had a deep epiphany. I realized there were hidden depths within me waiting to be unearthed and an inner permission that I urgently needed to grant myself in order to follow my longing to create. And even more than that, to allow myself and my work to shine.
For over a decade, my unwavering passion has been helping writers bring their stories to life. My own love affair with writing began at the tender age of 8 when I penned my first tale about witches with carbuncles. My voracious appetite for reading across genres, and obtaining a Bachelors degree in English/Creative Writing and an MFA, only fueled my passion for the power of writing.
My qualifications extend beyond writing alone and encompass a multifaceted approach to mentoring. In 2013, I embarked on a transformative journey of coach training, beginning with Martha Beck’s Wayfinder life coach program in 2013. I then went on to become a certified Equus coach and a master-certified Jungian Depth coach, adding profound layers to my ability to facilitate personal growth and transformation. My diverse background in writing and my extensive coach training form a unique and dynamic combination that sets me apart.
Throughout my career, I’ve had the privilege of assisting authors in achieving remarkable milestones, including securing coveted spots on prestigious lists like the New York Times and USA Today bestsellers. I’ve witnessed the birth of thriving businesses that were sparked by the writing of their books (yes, even memoirs), and the subsequent prosperity that comes with finding their purpose. Yet, as significant as these achievements are, I’ve come to recognize that the most profound transformations occur at a much deeper level.
The heart of our collaborative work lies in the true catharsis that takes place and I act as a guide and a compassionate witness to the inherent force within you—a force that is whole and complete. I am a meaning maker and a pattern recognizer, with a distinct ability to perceive and intricately weave together the seemingly disparate threads in your writing into the most exquisite tapestry imaginable.
Ink & Insight Includes:
Emotional Alchemy
Dream Interpretation
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Testimonials & Book Acknowledgements
“…Melanie is an absolute badass developmental editor and aunty to stray animals (and authors struggling with writer’s block). Melanie’s process helped me to unlock my story and share the stories of others, so that everyone reading (and listening) to this book can feel seen and heard while healing their Busy Brains. Every Friday afternoon, your wisdom and laughter helped me to edit my writing and magically gifted Rahja more doggy comfort food. This book was born because of your consummate professionalism and editorial skills—thank you for being my book shaman.”
“Melanie Bates… Thank you for being the daily sounding board for the ideas that bubbled up as I researched and wrote this book. Transmuting fuzzy thoughts into language people can understand is no small task, but you made it feel like a picnic. I loved learning all this with you by my side, and I will always consider this book part yours. You once told me it was part of your calling to help me bring my message into the world, and darling – phew! We’ve done it. Thank you.”
“Melanie Bates was a kind and astonishingly efficient editor and organizer for this project. Thank heavens I was led to her.”
“Melanie Bates, you are so gifted, talented, and full of wisdom. You truly are a book shaman. Thank you for your coaching, your feedback, your editing, and your incredible support and partnership with this book, I could not have done it without you.”
“Working with Melanie Bates as my Book Launch Manager for The Joy of Genius was a great experience for me and all the members of my team. She exceeded my expectations, and I don’t get to say that very often.”
“Coaching with Melanie is like having a spiritual mentor, best friend, business strategist and champion by your side. She gives you permission to do what you truly want, have what you deeply deserve, and BE who you were born to be. She is the person I call when I need a reminder of who I really am.”
“I am in awe of the person I have become since working with Melanie. I just completed my last session and although deeply saddened as our time together has come to an end, I am walking into my new life with direction and a confidence I sorely lacked five months ago… In addition to fulfilling her commitment to me, through my writing, I was able to heal so many years of emotional suffering. Melanie’s authenticity, nurturing love and well-honed intuition provided her with a deep soul knowing of exactly what I needed and when I needed it. She simply took my lead and my hand and guided me with amazing gentleness to the most unexpected and healing results. I will be forever grateful to her and whatever entity brought us together.”
“One of the gifts Melanie brings to coaching sessions is her willingness to help me see the difference between what I believe I ‘should do’ and what I feel called to do. Melanie has the courage to ask tough questions when she’s aware that even though I may not feel entirely comfortable with my answer, I may be ready to open up to it. In our sessions I felt understood and listened to, as well as challenged in good ways. I asked to work with Melanie because I’m endeavoring to listen more to my body’s and soul’s voices than to my mind’s expectations. Melanie delivers exactly this kind of coaching…My life mission has been blessed by working with Melanie.”
“Working with Melanie as a business coach has been invaluable. She has provided insight on everything from book writing and TEDx speaking to webpage wisdom. What I love most about Melanie is that she sees you as your truest self, your highest form. And she helps you see yourself that way, too.
Melanie is an awesome listener and is able to use laser focus in determining next best steps, even when you are still in the stumbling phase. She guides with grace. I’m grateful to know her and have her in my corner.”
“Melanie’s authenticity, personal views and way of operating her business—of being in the world—have all encouraged me to look more within than without—to deal with criticism more evenly, to feel more confident in my expression/choices and, even when I get it wrong, to shrug my shoulders more when mistakes happen. As we moved through the business coaching sessions, we established an expression for my business that was a good fit for my natural talents and personal ‘soapbox.’ Writing the content for the new website was a joy and, with Melanie’s assistance, grew in depth and clarity. I found such value in Melanie’s intuitive ability to pull out the perfect tool at the right moment and her sense of when we had touched on what was authentic, deep and meaningful. As a lifelong Virgo striving for perfection, usually through embracing difficulty as a badge of courage, Melanie showed that there was another way: intimate, intuitive, trusting and relaxed. If you want an authentic, fun, intuitive and generous coach, then do choose Melanie.”
“Choosing to work with Melanie Bates was hands-down, bar none, the best decision I could have made for myself and for my book. I honestly don’t know if I would have ever finished my book without her caring guidance and support. She was truly with me every step of the way—from the scary beginning until the triumphant finale! The accountability that our weekly calls provided made sure to keep me on track and moving forward. I would wholeheartedly recommend Melanie to anyone even thinking about writing a book.”
“Melanie Bates, what a blessing you have been in my life, for my business, and with my book. Your partnership, support, feedback, editing, and vision helped this come alive – it would not have happened in the way and the time it did without you, your gifts, and your incredible support, thank you!
Melanie is an amazing coach! She has the ability to hold space, see things, say things, and guide you in a way that is clear, kind, loving, and spot-on. Her intuitive gifts coupled with her business savvy, make her a unique coach, with a valuable set of skills. She has had a profound impact on my life and my business since I started working with her – things have gone to a whole new level and I’m so grateful for the work we’ve done together.”
“Melanie, you have been my cheerleader and my sounding board throughout this soulful process. Thank you for keeping your promise to never blow sunshine up my ass, for drawing out my stories and doing so with such love, compassion and wisdom. ”
“Melanie has a natural grace and is a gifted teacher who shows you how to access your own core wisdom. She encircles you with intuition, light, kindness, clarity, practical advice and enables you to find your calling and navigate the obstacles along the way. It’s like having a cup of tea with your guardian angel architect as you manifest your dreams.”
“To my developmental editor, the ‘Book Shaman’ Melanie Bates, many thanks for your support, expertise, and strong belief that I could complete this project.”
“Melanie Bates, offering all of her wisdom, literary gifts, brilliance, candor and compassion has most literally transformed not only my career, but my life as a whole. Thanks to her, I’m never looking back, only forward… to employing my untapped gifts and talents, as well as the numerous ways that Melanie has coached me to ignite them.”
“You’re not only helping me with this book, you are also helping me hash out some important themes in my life. I appreciate your awesome process. I appreciate your candidness. I appreciate your ability to see beyond the words. I feel better about this book than ever before. The themes are coming to life for me and I feel great about where we’re headed. It’s starting to feel ‘real’, and I can sense a theme, focus, and direction now.”
“Writing a book was a dream of mine since my 20’s. For over 30 years, I started over and over again, but never followed through.
When I was introduced to Melanie, I had gotten past the initial inertia, but I was in serious need of guidance. Over the better part of the following year, Melanie helped me shape and complete a first draft. At the beginning, I could never have imagined the book that eventually emerged through our work together. The result is thrilling, unexpected, and best of all, I learned so much about myself in the process.
I wouldn’t be where I am now without Melanie’s help and support. She is a coach in the truest sense of the word. She grew my capability, guided me in new and exciting directions, and—when it was most needed—told me the tough truth.
It’s funny. When I tell people about my book, so many say, ‘I’m thinking of writing a book,’ or ‘someone I know is thinking about writing,’ that’s when I smile from ear to ear and tell them, ‘I know just who to call!'”
“I’ve experienced a deep sense of being witnessed in our time together as I work through healing aspects of my ‘story’ and of having a compassionate, intuitive, wise, inquisitive, and interested companion as I travel this journey. It is so deeply healing.”
“Melanie has been so helpful with motivation to keep writing, improving my craft, and much more. She has guided me to process emotions as I was writing through a lot of grief. I’ve realized things I know I never would have if it wasn’t for her, and I am beyond grateful. I’ve been to many therapists, and this coaching experience has been vital for my healing. I believe processing your thoughts through writing can be valuable, but sometimes you need an extra nudge in direction or motivation to move you forward. Thank you, Melanie!”
“When I was first introduced to Melanie, I had a calling to write my story—and not much else. I had no formal writing education nor degree, and I didn’t even understand why I wanted to write. All I knew was I wrote in a journal my whole life and that something inside me needed to be expressed. She told me from day one, ‘you are a writer.’ (Bless you!)
I’lI never forget sitting on the steps leading into my garage, looking for a private spot in my small house so we could talk on the phone for the first time. I told Melanie that I wasn’t interested in the fastest path to publish a book nor to make money
I already had a full-time, well-paid job. What I did want was someone to help me navigate the next steps in taking the words I had in my heart and putting them into a first draft.
I realize that many people may want (and don’t get me wrong, I want it too) a best-selling book. What was more important to me was having someone meet and understand the very unexplainable urge that I have to use writing and inner exploration work to better understand my life so that I can live better and share what I’ve learned with others. I once heard someone say that if you’ve survived something big, you have a story to tell to help others. This is my motivation.
The highlight of my month is connecting with Melanie. Not only does she create a safe space for us to create together, she allows me the opportunity to step back and look at my writing in a way that helps me better understand my life and who I am. I share the most intimate and embarrassing parts of myself through my writing and she embraces it without judgement and in a way that helps me to feel safe.
She has the most incredible talent of showing up and being present on our calls. When she is reviewing my writing, she connects dots, pulls out information that I didn’t quite see, and finds the most important and salient thing that is seemingly right in front of me that I didn’t realize was there. The result is not only better and more truthful writing, but a blueprint to my life that helps me decode myself so that I can pass that on to others. She has a way of seeing and knowing like no one else.
Melanie is special. And anyone who gets to work with her will not only learn how to write a book, but will learn who they are as human.”
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