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This isn’t a crisis.

It’s a threshold.

That low hum of anxiety, restlessness, & emptiness you feel day after day.

The way you sob uncontrollably while watching “Call the Midwife”, even though you chose not to have children.

The flashes of rage when people stumble past your rickety boundaries & scorch the scrap of peace you’ve cobbled together with scotch tape covered in cat hair.

This isn’t something to fix.

It’s a signal.

A moment in the arc of a life when what worked before no longer does & what wants to emerge can no longer be ignored.

If you recognize yourself here, this work may be for you.

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Working at the Threshold

I work with healers, writers, and creatives in midlife who have spent the first half of life holding up the sky for everyone else and have reached the moment when something essential is asking to be reclaimed and brought into form.

This is Jungian depth coaching for the second half of life.

The second half of life is not marked by age, but by readiness—the moment when the structures that once held you are no longer enough, and the soul begins to insist.

Not self-improvement.

Not optimization.

But the deliberate turning inward toward what was set aside so you could be competent, helpful, and good.

The parts of you that were buried to make room for others.

Over time, this work doesn’t just deepen insight—

it changes how you make decisions,

how you relate to your creative energy,

and how much effort it takes to be yourself.

Midlife hands you a shovel.

So you dig.

And each shovelful reveals what the second half of life is asking you to either leave behind or excavate:

Things like:

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    The creativity that felt too selfish to pursue

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    The wild, unpolished truth you learned to keep quiet

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    The desires you dismissed as impractical or indulgent

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    The voice that wanted to say “Actually, no” but said “Of course” instead

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    The bigness—the light, the largeness—you dimmed so others wouldn’t feel threatened

You didn’t mean to bury these things.

You were swept up in the relentless current of what the first half of life required: raising children, building careers, being reliable, and being everything to everyone.

That season asked for sacrifice.

But the second half asks for something else.

Because not creating—not bringing forth what is within you—eventually begins to feel destructive.

The Work of the Second Half

As Jungian analyst James Hollis writes, midlife is a time to “go back and pick up the bits and pieces that you left behind—gifts, talents, capacities, interests, and passions.”

But this isn’t about returning to an old life.

Once what was buried is brought to the surface, it cannot be placed back into the same story.

It becomes material.

You use it to write a new narrative—one shaped consciously, creatively, and on purpose.

A life that feels coherent, alive, and true.

How This Work Unfolds

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Our work is grounded in Jungian philosophy, active imagination, dream work, and the practice of living symbolically.

Together, we unearth the personal myth you’ve been living (often unconsciously) and engage the one that is asking to be lived next.

I work from what Jung called the medial position: the space between conscious and unconscious, between who you’ve been and who you are becoming.

From here, patterns become visible.

Images begin to speak.

What has been circling finds a center.

Writing may emerge as part of the work (not as performance, but as a way the soul gives form to what it knows.) For some, it becomes central. For others, it is one vehicle among many.

What matters is not the medium.

What matters is that what is within you is brought forth.

We work together in longer containers, typically six to nine months, where continuity allows the work to deepen without being rushed.

It allows what’s been operating quietly to deepen, and shift without being rushed or forced.

There is structure here, but no formula. A container that holds the work while what needs to emerge finds its own rhythm.

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I am in awe of the person I have become since working with Melanie. I just completed my last session and although deeply saddened as our time together has come to an end, I am walking into my new life with direction and a confidence I sorely lacked five months ago… In addition to fulfilling her commitment to me, through my writing, I was able to heal so many years of emotional suffering. Melanie’s authenticity, nurturing love and well-honed intuition provided her with a deep soul knowing of exactly what I needed and when I needed it. She simply took my lead and my hand and guided me with amazing gentleness to the most unexpected and healing results. I will be forever grateful to her and whatever entity brought us together.

Sydney Brown, MSW

This is Relational Work

I don’t apply formulas or move you through a preset timeline.

The work responds to what is alive.

Sometimes we stay with a dream.

Sometimes with a memory or an image that refuses to be rushed.

Sometimes writing becomes the way excavation and integration happens.

I offer structure when it’s needed and spaciousness when it’s needed. I reflect patterns you may not yet see and help distinguish between circling old stories and crossing into something new.

Over time, this work reshapes how you live, how you choose, how you hold your story, and how you imagine your future.

People notice they’re less reactive, less fragmented, less unsure of their own knowing.

Decisions take less energy.

Creative work becomes steadier, more honest, and less charged with self-doubt.

Why Work With Me?

If you’re wondering whether I’ve walked this path myself—whether I know what it feels like to stand at the threshold between the life you’ve been living and the one that’s asking to be created…

The answer is yes. Wearing a pea coat and galoshes, in fact.

The first half of my life was devoted to creating for others. For more than a decade, I helped writers shape their books—some of which became New York Times and USA Today bestsellers. I helped build other people’s visions, voices, and legacies.

It was meaningful.

Successful.

And it came at a cost.

I set aside my own creative life. My own voice. My own unfinished story.

What followed was not a tidy dark night of the soul, but a long descent marked by loss, illness, and the collapse of an identity I had relied on for years.

That descent changed how I understood transformation.

Not as productivity.

Not as reinvention.

But as reclamation.

Today, my work is informed by both rigorous Jungian training and lived initiation. I mentor and train other depth coaches and work with clients who are ready to engage their lives symbolically—not as problems to solve, but as material rich with meaning.

I don’t work to “fix” people or push outcomes.

I work as a guide and a witness—someone who knows the terrain, recognizes the patterns, and can hold the lantern steady while you move into your own depths.

Not polished.

Not performed.

But whole.

I’ve experienced a deep sense of being witnessed in our time together as I work through healing aspects of my ‘story’ and of having a compassionate, intuitive, wise, inquisitive, and interested companion as I travel this journey. It is so deeply healing.

Sarah Telles MD, Psychiatrist at Telles MD

This Work Is For You If…

  • You’re ready to stop performing and start creating from truth

  • You’re willing to turn toward what’s unfinished rather than rush past it

  • You care more about honest work than quick results

  • You’re open to being changed by what you create

  • You recognize the quiet insistence that says, “It’s time.”

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    And you are past acute crisis. This is not therapy for active trauma (and I am not a therapist.) It is depth work for what comes after.

This Work Is NOT For You If:

  • You’re looking for book coaching, developmental editing, or publishing support

  • You want formulas, shortcuts, or someone (ahem…A.I.) to do the work for you

  • You’re focused on producing something impressive rather than engaging what’s true

  • You’re not interested in being changed

Begin with a Threshold Conversation

This work begins with a conversation.

A Threshold Conversation is a 30-minute space to pause together—to listen for what’s stirring, to name what feels unfinished, and to discern whether this work is the right next step.

There is nothing to prepare.

Nothing to perform.

Clarity is not required.

Some people leave the conversation with a clearer relationship to what’s asking for attention. Some recognize they’re ready for a deeper container. Some simply name what has been quietly asking for attention.

All of those outcomes are welcome.

People don’t come to this work to become someone new.


They come because something in them is tired of being managed, postponed, or negotiated away.


This is the work of letting what’s already true begin to live forward.

If you feel the pull to reclaim what you buried and consciously shape the story that wants to be lived next, you can begin here.

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